I would divide this world population in three categories –
- People who are totally unaware of your existence
- People who don’t like you, and
- People who do like you.
People in category 1 don’t even know you exist and don’t really care about what you do and what happens to you.
Category 2 consists of people who don’t really like you. And there is really nothing you can do to make them like you. They just won’t. The more you try to charm them, the more you will piss them off. And guess what, there will always be some buggers like that.
But you know what; you shouldn’t change yourself for these people. You do what you want to do. It’s okay to stand up for what you believe in. Without caring about what ‘others’ think of it. Cz you know what, ‘others’ already don’t like you.
Let me break this down for you nice and simple – When people don’t like you, what do you think happens. Correct. Nothing at all. Worst case scenario, they may get annoyed by you; which, if you think about it, only gives you more power over them. Right?
So why are you attempting to please them?
But hey, don’t you be feeling lonely already. There are people out there who care about you, and probably only you.
These are your friends, family and loyal customers. These are the people who should matter to you and you should be focusing on (Category 3). And to be honest, these people will support you in whatever you may choose to do anyway.
But keep in mind that relationships are weird. Although we know they are important, we tend to take these people for granted. It’s not just the men who like the chase, we all do. We all like to find new people to impress and once they become a part of category 3, we instantly stop caring about them as much as we should and move on to new targets (in category 1 and 2) to impress. That is the dirty truth.
For a moment, let’s assume that you actually forget about categories that don’t matter (1 and 2) and put all your effort into category 3, towards people who love you and care about you. These are the people you have made memories with. These are the people who stood by you when you fought against something you felt was wrong. These are your cheer leaders, your mentors, your teachers, your loved ones.
How would that feel?
What’s the point of this post, you ask? Well, it’s simple –
If you take your mind off of all the unimportant bullshit, you can have 100% of your heart and mind available to focus on people that are important to you. How liberating is that? Can you feel it?
The crux of this is – Get rid of unimportant horse shit from your life, and focus on what actually matters (to YOU).
Stop doing things to please people who probably have killed you three times in their dreams.
Stop living a life that boo-sayers say you should.
Explore a whole new world– one where anything you choose to do is fine as long as it isn’t seriously hurting you or anyone else.
Act on your dreams. NOW. There is no tomorrow. You have just one life and the time is limited. Don’t waste it doing things that don’t matter for people who don’t matter.
Know that whatever your heart desires you can achieve. The obstacle is inimportant (yes, that’s a word).
I can’t emphasize enough: The only person stopping you from being the best is YOU.
P.S. This sounds very cliched, and probably is a horrible way to end this post, but it is truer than true.